Yesterday I discovered the existence of a tribe in the Chinese Himalayas called “Mosuo”. They are probably one of the only Matriarchal tribes left in the world. What caught my attention most was what they call “Walking Marriages” where the women sleep with partners when they want and with whoever they want. If she becomes pregnant the child is hers. A family is not created around a mother-father union, rather the family is created through the mother line, everyone born from that mother lives with their mother and if the daughters have children the family gets bigger. The men live at home with their mothers the women live at their homes. Everyone is free.
One of the most striking lines from the documentary was “when the love finishes it’s time to move on”. It’s exactly how I’d live. Exactly how I think I’d be if society didn’t force women into certain roles. What would society think if a woman just slept with different partners all her life so that she could feel in love all the time? She would be considered promiscuous. But with the Mosuos it’s just the way it is, it’s the natural evolution of things. The whole goal of the women in that tribe is to feel constantly in love. Isn’t that just amazing?
Society today is based on an antique Patriarchal system where men owned their women, daughters were sold into marriage. Maybe it’s time to start changing things.
To top it all off the tribe doesn’t even have a word for war or conflict.
So the impact of this on me was simply a huge sigh of relief, understanding that what I feel is right for me is actually just part of my nature. I’m not crazy to want to be in love all the time. I’m not crazy to not want a lifelong partner. Serial Monogamy is the ‘technical’ anthropological term. This is how I could definitely live.