Yesterday, I encountered two articles regarding teachers having sexual relations with their students. In both cases, the teachers have been arrested and charged with crimes related to statutory rape and abuse of their positions as teachers. The commentary following the two articles caught my attention. The comments (mostly from men) in regard to an English teacher who moonlights as a NFL cheerleader ( http://profootballtalk.nbcsports.com/2012/03/29/bengals-cheerleader-arrested-accused-of-sex-with-high-school-student/ ) virtually all expressed envy of the student, commented on how “hot” the teacher is, and ranted about how it is inappropriate to punish the teacher for providing a life long experience to the young man. Many had gone to the Ben-Gals web site to see the teacher and commented on how they wished that their teachers had been so hot and wondering if she would be willing to tutor in English ( http://world-news.newsvine.com/_news/2012/03/31/10950050-teacher-arrested-after-sex-with-students-for-higher-grades#comments ). The comments (also including many from men) in regard to the man who had had sex with his female students in exchange for better grades were pretty consistent in condemning the teacher. Several suggested the teacher be castrated, at least two threatened to kill him, and numerous included hope that he will be imprisoned where he will be raped and beaten. A couple indicated suspicion that the girls may have seduced the teacher but, in any event were unlikely to have been innocent since “most” girls have had sex with their boyfriends by age 16 (no data cited to support this, simply the statement as “truth”).
I am wondering how we can expect our teenagers to have any concept about morality in regards to sexual relations when a significant proportion of adults in their lives apparently believe that minor aged boys are to be congratulated and praised for “nailing” a willing female but males having sex with minor girls should be tortured and imprisoned. I am not a prude but I do believe that adults who seduce children whether male or female are committing a form of rape (coerced sex). I frankly cannot conceive how one can consider that it is fine for adult women to seduce young boys but terrible for adult men to seduce young girls. Change your opinion on one or the other of those opinions. Clearly, we cannot make significant inroads into this type thinking but I felt a need to rant a little bit.