The bias against men in the U.S. in child custody cases shows overwhelming one-sidedness.
- 83% of the time, custody goes to the mother.
- 57% of the time woman has custody, she is awarded child support.
- 40% of the time custody goes to the father, he is awarded child support
- As a result of all of these biases against fathers, the percentage of all child support dollars paid is extremely biased. Roughly 90% of all child support dollars received are received by mothers
Perhaps nowhere is the bias against men so obvious than in matters of child custody and support, the panel found. Fathers get custody of children in uncontested cases only 10 percent of the time and 15 percent of the time in contested cases. Women get sole custody 66 percent of the time in uncontested cases and 75 percent of the time in contested cases.
This might make sense, the commissioners suggested, in a society in which the workforce was dominated by men. However, according to the latest statistics of the U.S. Department of Labor, women now make up 47 percent of the total labor force.
Here’s an interesting side note in this article:
The commission also cited studies that show more than half of all domestic violence is actually directed against men. It points out that the American Judges Association website notes solemnly: “Every 15 seconds a women is battered somewhere in the United States.” What the website doesn’t mention is that every 14 seconds women batter their partners.
A man who fails to pay child support is eight times more likely to go to jail as a woman who fails to pay child support. A revealing experience my oldest daughter had with this is especially revealing. She is divorced and remarried as is her husband. They have a his, hers and theirs family. He’s one of the few that has sole custody of his son. A few years ago, his ex went to the welfare office to get her welfare renewed. They asked her if she had any children and if she was getting any support. Yes and no. She conveniently failed to mention that she was supposed to be paying support, which she wasn’t doing. My son-in-law go hauled into court by the state over child support. Fortunately, my sister is a high ranking official in the state government and got things straightened out post haste.
They could consider themselves lucky. This guy paid child support for five years for a child that didn’t exist. (And, some people wonder why others don’t trust government.)
For example, a Stanford study of 1,000 divorced couples selected at random found that divorcing mothers were awarded sole custody four times as often as divorcing fathers in contested custody cases. A study of all divorce-custody decrees in Arlington County, Virginia over an 18 month period found that no father was given sole or even joint custody unless the mother agreed to it. According to Frank Bishop, the former director of the Virginia Division of Child Support Enforcement, almost 95% of custody cases in Virginia were won by mothers.
An Ohio study published in Family Advocate found that fathers seeking sole custody obtain it in less than 10% of cases, and a Utah study conducted over 23 years found similar results. According to the 2000 Census Bureau report, mothers comprise 85% of all custodial parents.
And the myth that women automatically know how to be a good parent solely by virtue of having given birth doesn’t only put unfair expectations on women but minimizes the role of men in the rearing of a child. Short of not being able to breast feed, men have the same abilities to protect and guide the development of a child as women. Yet this myth propagates the notion that men are innately incompetent to nurture a child which, unfortunately, plays itself out daily in Family Court.
From a legal perspective, most courts are obligated to focus on the best interests of the child. However, the reality is that a gender bias exists due in large part to the antiquated notion that women make better parents. And even though statistics show unequivocally that children raised in single parent homes with limited or no access to both parents are at a far greater risk to commit crimes or abuse drugs, many men face an uphill battle when trying to assert themselves into their children’s lives
You’d think the great left wing, all concerned with equality, would take up this cause and fight for the right of men to be fathers and children to have equal access to their fathers. But, feminists, the great warriors for gender equality, say otherwise:
PC feminist organizations, like NOW, claim that the rebuttable presumption of joint custody would cripple the current standard, which is “the best interests of the child.” They claim the family court system blindly turns children over to abusive fathers. Instead of joint custody, such feminists wish children to remain with “primary caregivers” — overwhelmingly, the mothers.
The much publicized California NOW Family Court Report 2002 recommends, “Abolish the tendency to assume joint custody is always in the best interests of the child. This is a false presumption with no support in reality…Sole custody [should] default to the primary caregiver at separation.”
Our society takes:
Nationwide, about 9 percent more men develop prostate cancer than women develop breast cancer. Yet the federal government spends approximately seven times more on breast cancer research ($550 million) than it does on prostate cancer research ($80 million).
In fact mortality rates from all causes – cancer, diabetes, heart disease, injuries, suicide – are significantly higher for men than women. The New Hampshire commission found men are more than five times more likely to kill themselves than women.
And our “good” Democrats want to tell us there’s a war against women.
P.S. – Don’t bother accusing me of writing this because I lost custody, etc. I won, although my children’s loving mother has avoided supporting them as much as she can and stay out of jail, even after inheriting her share of a $10 million estate. Currently, our only minor child, 16 year old daughter, stays with me 100% of the time and works as a waitress because she’d rather do that than ask her mother for a dime. She’s also an honor student, but her mother calls her a “whore” and a “slut.”